What is Edging for Women?

Put simply – edging is staying on the edge of an orgasm but not allowing the release.  Edging techniques are practiced by both men and women, though more often by men. Since women can be or learn to become multi-orgasmic, there is less of a need for them to delay an orgasm and practice edging for women. Instead, a woman might want to learn to become multi-orgasmic and continue to orgasm throughout a sexual experience.

The Benefits of Edging for Women

There can be some wonderful benefits of edging for women, including:

  1. Sexual self-awareness – The main benefit of edging for women is a more in-depth relationship to their own sexual arousal. The more you know about how your body works and what brings you to orgasm, the better masturbatory and sexual experiences you can have. Learning how to edge means learning the ins and out of your own body and arousal cycle so it can profoundly deepen your own sexual self-awareness.
  2. Stronger orgasms – Sometimes putting off an orgasm can help you have a stronger and more longer-lasting orgasm. The more erotic tension is in a woman’s body, the more powerful her orgasm can be.
  3. Deepening connection with a partner – Edging can be an opportunity to play with your partner connection. You can teach your partner exactly how you like to be touched, and they in turn can tease and take you through repeating waves of pleasure.

Edging and Masturbation

Some women practice female edging during masturbation. They really like the feeling of being teased and want to give it to themselves. Female edging is especially useful for women masturbating to porn while trying to prolong their experience. Because porn has a strong stimulating effect, she might come very quickly.

If you want your porn-watching experience to be more fulfilling, you should experiment with touching and teasing yourself only very lightly to prevent yourself from going over the edge of orgasm too quickly.

Edging and Power Play

Because edging is not generally as beneficial to female physical pleasure, female edging is practiced more by women and their partners who are interested in exploring power play. For people who enjoy playing with power dynamics in their sex lives, mastering edging or orgasm denial can be a great way to control a partner’s orgasm timing as well as your own.

To play with power around orgasms, a woman’s partner might tell her she is only allowed to orgasm when they say so. She might have to hold back her orgasms, surrendering her pleasure to the will of her partner. Alternatively, her partner may keep her on the edge of orgasm until she performs certain sexual acts or says what he wants her to say. This exchange of power can often be very arousing to both people, especially if they are into dominance and submission.

Challenges of Edging for Women

Although many women naturally have an easier time prolonging their orgasm, the downside is that many women also unintentionally lose arousal during sex. This is one of the major challenges of edging for women.

Practicing Edging for Women

Practicing edging has some of the same elements of for women as it does for men. Understanding the arousal scale is useful, but tends to be a little more complicated since women often describe a much less linear build-up of pleasure. Nonetheless, for successful edging, paying attention to arousal levels and the PNR (Point of No Return) is beneficial.

Helping your partner experience edging involves a high level of attunement to her physical cues. It can help to guide the type of stimulation necessary to keep her aroused to the edge of orgasm without pushing her over. You will need to pay close attention to her sounds and muscle movements and learn just when to start and stop stimulation. The best way to learn this attunement is for your female edging partner to tell you when to start and stop so you can see how her body reacts at different levels of arousal.

Edging Techniques: Clitoral Stimulation

There are several edging techniques – one of which focuses on clitoral stimulation. You can start by putting some lube on your fingers and stroking her whole vulva, moving very gently across the clitoris. Slow, light stroking will likely bring her to an edge eventually – though she might need some directer or faster touch too get her close to orgasm. Make sure you are touching the clit lightly enough so the clitoral hood can move across it, and try side-to-side or circular motions at a faster pace.

Once you see her getting close, slow the movement down or take a break, and then slowly begin the same process over again. Most women also appreciate simultaneous touch on other parts of their body. You might want to tease her lips or nipples with your tongue, providing taunting effects in two places at once.

Edging Techniques: G Spot Stimulation

Another approach to edging is through G spot stimulation. Start by stimulating the G spot area lightly and increase pressure over time. The G spot can take quite a lot of pressure, so steadily put more and more pressure on it, while paying close attention to your partner’s response. As she gets closer to her orgasm, build up the stimulation with more intense thrusting or deeper and faster fingering. When she is really close, pull out and stop all stimulation. This G spot edging technique can build huge anticipatory intensity and result in an enormous G spot orgasm, followed by or in combination with female ejaculation.

How Can a Sex Coach Help with Edging for Women?

A sex coach can answer deeper and more detailed questions around edging techniques, or other benefits edging has for women. Your coach can also provide you with specific tools and techniques to become fluent in the art of edging.

To practice edging through masturbation witnessing or touch, a sexological bodyworker can assist.

 

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Danielle Harel
Danielle Harel, PhD is the Co-creator of the Somatica® Method and the Co-Founder of the Somatica® Institute. She trains coaches in the Somatica® Method of Sex and Relationship Coaching. She has her own private practice in Sunnyvale, where she supports her clients in having amazing sex and relationships as well as passion-fueled lives. She has published original research on Orgasmic Birth and is the co-author of two books, Cockfidence - The Definitive Guide to Being the Man You Want to Be and Driving Women Wild and Making Love Real - The Intelligent Couples Guide to Lasting Intimacy and Passion. Danielle Has her Masters in Clinical Social Work From Haifa University in Israel and her PhD in Human Sexuality from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (IASHS). She is a Clinical Sexologist and a Certified Sexological Bodyworker. Danielle is a Certified Body Positive Facilitator and took many trainings in embodied and mindfulness based therapeutic approaches such as Hakomi.