How Sexual Empowerment Can Change Your Life

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For centuries, women’s erotic power has been marginalized. However, reclaiming your sexual empowerment offers a transformative opportunity. Beyond the bedroom, embracing one’s erotic power can also profoundly influence daily life. From bolstering self-confidence and assertiveness to fostering healthier relationships and enhancing overall well-being, the benefits are vast.

Here’s how to connect to your body, harness your sexual energy to feel empowered, and get what you want – in life, in bed, and at work.

What is Erotic or Sexual Empowerment?

Erotic or sexual empowerment for women embodies a powerful assertion of agency, autonomy, and self-determination. This applies to our bodies, desires, and life experiences. It also transcends societal norms and patriarchal expectations, granting us the freedom to explore and embrace our sexuality on our terms.

Tactically, to be erotically empowered means to be in your body, feeling your desires on a deep level, and fearlessly knowing and celebrating what you want as a woman. Not just in general, in the world, or your career. But knowing what you want sexually – and being completely unashamed about it. Also being willing to go out and get it for yourself, and not just wait for it to come to you.

Why Women Are Not Sexually Empowered

Women have been robbed of their sexual power at every turn. Despite some progress, many women to this day still lack sexual empowerment due to societal constraints, patriarchal structures, and gender inequalities.

Cultural taboos and stigmas around female sexuality often suppress women’s desires as well. They have been told that sex is dangerous – that there’s something wrong with them if they want sex. And they have been slut shamed when they do show themselves as sexual beings.

Additionally, unequal power dynamics in relationships and limited access to comprehensive sexual education contribute to this lack of erotic empowerment.

How to Connect to Your Sexual Power

Addressing these systemic barriers as a society is an important first step in fostering an environment where women can fully embrace their sexuality. But to be a successful career woman, mother, friend, lover, and partner – you have to also find this part of yourself.

It’s often not very obvious to women that sexuality is actually the very tool that gives them power. They look at sex as a compartment in their life, simply things you do in the bedroom. They are not taught to feel that their sexuality is the thing that puts a stride in their walk, makes them feel their bodies, or tune into their sexual energy.

Only when we know what we want sexually, and we feel that it’s our right, then we feel comfortable asking for what we want.

Here is an exercise you can do to help connect you to your sexual power and feel sexy:

Feeling along the curves of your body, start to feel your selfness. Walk around and feel your hips move. Tune into your sexual energy as it’s spreading and rippling through your body. Everything starts to feel brighter. You see the sunshine, green leaves, smiling people. You feel joy.

The Benefits of Sexual Empowerment

Through this reclamation of sexual prowess, you can cultivate a profound sense of confidence, authenticity, and inner fulfillment. But it also yields other, multifaceted advantages.

For one, this enhanced self-awareness fosters confidence and agency, empowering you to assert your boundaries and cultivate healthier relationships. Feeling connected to yourself allows you to connect to the people you love most in the world.

Embracing sexual empowerment also dismantles societal stigmas, and promotes body positivity and inclusivity. You contribute to paving the way for greater equality and liberation in both intimate and public spheres.

But most of all – sex is part of our aliveness. It’s who we are as beings. And when we’re strutting around in our erotic empowerment and energy, people sense it and see it. They respect us more as humans when they don’t see us hiding our desires.

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Danielle Harel
Danielle Harel
Dr. Danielle Harel is the the co-creator of the Somatica® Method and the co-founder of the Somatica® Institute. She has a Ph.D. in Human Sexuality (DHS), a graduate degree in Clinical Social Work (MSW), and a Bachelors (BA) degree in Psychology and Educational Counseling.

As a somatic sexologist, professor, and author, Danielle has devoted the last 20 years to resolving her client’s sexual challenges, training sex & relationship coaches, and empowering people. Harnessing her extensive training in sexology, psychology, and body-based modalities like Hakomi, attachment theory, character theory, and neuro-patterning, she guides people in reaching their fullest personal, professional, and sexual potential.

In addition to being faculty at Esalen and teaching the Advanced Somatica Training and Mastery Classes, Danielle has most recently embraced the adventure of co-producing the TV series Here She Comes – an episodic based on the Somatica Method (currently in production).

Before that, she published original research on Orgasmic Birth, and co-authored 3 books with Celeste Hirschman: Cockfidence, Making Love Real, and Coming Together.

She has also written extensively on sex, relationships, and dating, and is frequently quoted as an expert resource in publications.

To everything she does, Danielle brings her unparalleled passion, depth, intuition, and magnetizing personality.

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