What is a sex expert – really?

The term sex expert is an umbrella term that refers to people from a wide variety of professions. Generally though, sex experts are people who have studied sex or sexuality in some way – like a sex therapist or a sex coach. Often, they are referred to as a sex expert, simply because they have decided to use their knowledge of sexuality to give advice, answer questions, or offer sex counseling or sex coaching.

Are Sex Experts Always Professionals?

No. Not always. There are those who have put themselves out into the media, claiming to be helpful with sexual issues, but lack any and all formal education. They haven’t studied sexuality in all its nuances, but have gone through their own personal explorations, which in their eyes qualifies them as sex experts. They might contribute to a magazine as a guest writer, maintain a blog, have a Youtube channel, Instagram following, or perhaps even a podcast where they share their experiences and explorations. But no matter their medium – they all share an outspokenness for sex positivity, self-love and promoting positive body image.

What Does a Sex Expert Do?

Sex experts give advice on all sorts of topics concerning sex. For example, a sex expert talks about how to have better sex and helps people understand their own sexual identity – whether heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, pansexual or something else. Because sex experts tend to be vocal about their chosen persuasion and often engage with the media, they help society at large better understand sex. At the same time, they foster acceptance for groups who are marginalized around their sexuality – like the LGBT community, people who practice BDSM or participate in polyamory.

Sex experts tend to have specialty niches in one area or another, giving specific advice to a particular population. For example, one sex expert might only be an expert in tantric practices or seduction skills. Another might help people who are dating or those who are trying to explore open relationships. The variety reaches into all corners of culture and religion – there are even sex experts who only focus on Christians in long-term relationships have better sex.

Past the Realm of the Self Made Sex Expert

Some of the most common sex experts include sex coaches, sex therapists, sex researchers, sex educators and those with sexuality studies degrees. The truth is, however – anyone can call themselves a sex expert. There is no guiding institution around this area of advice giving.

While community education and promoting sex positivity are definitely great and a valiant effort – remember that if you are struggling with sexual dysfunction or deep relationship issues, consider getting in touch with a certified professional. Always make sure they actually have an educational or practical background in working with people around their sexuality.

Finding someone to talk to can be a very individual journey – but we’re here to help. Read our articles on What is a Sex Coach, What is an Intimacy Coach and other modalities to determine which professional is right for YOU. If you’re looking for a sex therapist in the San Francisco Bay Area, start here.

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Danielle Harel
Danielle Harel, PhD is the Co-creator of the Somatica® Method and the Co-Founder of the Somatica® Institute. She trains coaches in the Somatica® Method of Sex and Relationship Coaching. She has her own private practice in Sunnyvale, where she supports her clients in having amazing sex and relationships as well as passion-fueled lives. She has published original research on Orgasmic Birth and is the co-author of two books, Cockfidence - The Definitive Guide to Being the Man You Want to Be and Driving Women Wild and Making Love Real - The Intelligent Couples Guide to Lasting Intimacy and Passion. Danielle Has her Masters in Clinical Social Work From Haifa University in Israel and her PhD in Human Sexuality from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (IASHS). She is a Clinical Sexologist and a Certified Sexological Bodyworker. Danielle is a Certified Body Positive Facilitator and took many trainings in embodied and mindfulness based therapeutic approaches such as Hakomi.