Condoms…lawyers…taxes – and the list goes on.
Well, there really isn’t much to say regarding your dislike of lawyers and taxes, but you can change the way you feel about condoms. All it takes is a good experience or three. And putting on the condom is often the most dreaded part.
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Ways to make putting on a condom fun
Paul Joannides, author of *Guide To Getting It On has some sweet suggestions that might just infuse your condom experience with an extra dose of EROTIC.
“Few lovers talk to each other about ways they might help each other stay aroused when putting on a condom. Far from talking about the mechanics (who opens the condom package, etc) the conversation will be far more successful if you can make it tap into each other’s fantasy level. This can help make putting on a condom part of mutual turn-on.
Here are a few possible approaches for male-female couples, but it won’t take much effort to make this male-male friendly.
ANTICIPATION
You can make condoms part of the anticipation by slipping a condom in your partner’s pocket followed by a welcome kiss, loving fingertips rubbing over the front of his or her pants, a big smile, and a few words about what you are looking forward to after the movie (or after the party, or after dinner, or…)
VISUAL APPROACH
Some women say they find it arousing to be able to watch a guy put on a condom and stroke himself for a while; If a man finds it arousing to watch his partner masturbate and she doesn’t mind indulging him, they can arrange themselves so he can watch her playing with herself while he puts on the condom.
ORAL APPROACH
If he is turned on by giving her oral sex, they can arrange their bodies so she can put the condom on him while he’s got his face between her legs; He can put the condom on while she kisses and caresses his testicles (but she shouldn’t get saliva on the base of his penis, as this is where the condom needs to grip so it doesn’t slip off).
TALKING DIRTY
If the couple finds dirty talk to be arousing, she can be telling him what she wants him to do with his penis as she’s putting on the condom, or she can tell him what she wants him to do with it as he’s putting on the condom, or he can tell her what’s going to happen once he gets the condom on, etc.
GRINDING
She can be rubbing her wet vulva against his thigh as she’s putting the condom on his penis.
HAND ACTION–MAKING IT PART OF THE PROCESS
If she’s putting the condom on she’ll have both hands full with the actual mechanics (tearing the package open, making sure the condom material is coming out the center, getting it over the head and rolling it down). However, it’s easier to make putting on a condom a turn-on if she makes it part of a longer process where she begins by stroking his penis in ways that he likes and plays with his testicles, then open the condom package, but puts it down and strokes and caresses his penis some more, then puts the condom on, and then plays with his penis some more.”
More good condom reading:
One Size Doesn’t Fit All
Condoms Every Time!
Condoms of the Animal Kingdom
Condom Common Sense
Safe Sex Suggestions
*For me the Guide To Getting It On is kind of like The Joy of Cooking – if it isn’t in there, you don’t really need to know.
See what else Paul has to say on the subject of sex - visit him at the Guide To Getting It On.
