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Relationship Articles

"I Love You.  And This Time I Mean It."

"I Need a Partner To Be Happy"

5 Ways to Improve Your Romantic Relationships

7 Top Reasons for Affairs
A Sensitive Man

Ambivalence in Relationships

Are Love and Sex Synonymous?

Beginner's Guide to Radical Honesty

Choosing a Marital Therapist

Communicating with a Silent Partner

Compersion: Using Jealousy As a Path To Unconditional Love

Complications to Connection

Cozying Up The Bedroom With Feng Shui
Do You Have a Single's Bucket List?

Duds for Dating - The Lure of Blue Jeans

Embracing

Feng Shui Your Bedroom
Friends with Benefits
How can I persuade my partner to have anal sex?'
How To Date After Divorce

How To Write a Killer Online Profile

Infidelity vs. Out-Fidelity

Intimacy Begins With You

Internet Dating

Is This a Relationship Stage?
It's a Man Thing

Just the Stats

Learning How To Listen

Legalizing Your Office Romance

Lover's Touch (The)

Manifesting Love and More Sex

Men Need Sex, Women Need Love and Vice Versa

Mixed Marriages: The Polyamory vs. Monogamy Debate

Money and Love

Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

Online Dating Safety

Peaceful Top 10

Regain Your Relationship Mojo

Relationships - Control or Kindness

Safety in Internet Dating

Seven Natural Laws of Love

Sexless Marriage

Sexual Savvy - When She Has It and He Doesn't

Speaking of Sex...

The Relationship Dance

There's Hugs and Then There's HUGS

Verbal Abuse, Emotional Abuse

We Have To Talk...

Welcoming the Poly Alternative

What Does It Take For a Relationship To Work?

What Women Want

When Settling Isn't an Option

You, Me, and Cell Makes 3
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A Good "Bedtime" Story

A Sensitive Man
 

I could say a lot about this, but I won't -
the story says it all. - Pam


A woman meets a man in a bar. They talk; they connect; they end up leaving together.

They get back to his place, and as he shows her around his apartment , she notices that one wall of his bedroom is com­pletely filled with soft, sweet, cuddly teddy bears.

There are three shelves in the bedroom, with hundreds and hundreds of cute, cuddly teddy bears carefully placed in rows, covering the entire wall!

It was obvious that he had taken quite some time to lovingly arrange them and she was immediately touched by the amount of thought he had put into organizing the display. There were small bears all along the bottom shelf, medium-sized bears covering the length of the middle shelf, and huge, enormous bears running all the way along the top shelf.

She found it strange for an obviously masculine guy to have such a large collection of Teddy Bears. She is quite impressed by his sensitive side, but doesn’t mention this to him.

They share a bottle of wine and continue talking and, after a while, she finds herself thinking, ‘Oh my God! Maybe, this guy could be the one! Maybe he could be the future father of my children?’

She turns to him and kisses him lightly on the lips. He responds warmly. They continue to kiss, the passion builds, and he ro­mantically lifts her in his arms and carries her into his bedroom where they rip off each other’s clothes and make love.

She is so overwhelmed that she responds with more passion than she has ever known.

After an intense, explosive night of raw passion with this sensi­tive guy, they are lying there together in the afterglow.

The woman rolls over, gently strokes his chest and asks coyly, ‘Well, how was it for you?’

The guy gently smiles at her, strokes her cheek, looks deeply into her eyes, and says:

‘Help yourself to any prize from the middle shelf’

Sex Coach Says

Decisions.  Decisions.  Decisions. You know the ones - should I sleep with him on our first date?  Or second date? Should I invite him to meet my family?

It is a woman's nature to ruminate and ruminate, consider every possible out­come, and fantasize over a dreamy scenario.

It can be easier than that - narrow the focus and honor yourself, rather than trying to predict what your partner will think about you - whether you do or you don't. 

Are you trying to control the situation (or the entire relationship) by becoming the person you believe your partner wants you to be?

Ask yourself "How will I feel if there is no third date or reciprocation?" "Will I be devastated?  Depressed?  Feel shame?  Can I handle it?  Do I want to?" 

Quiet your mind, honor yourself, and decide accordingly.

If you don't honor yourself, you probably won't attract a partner who will.

Pam Babbitt, Sex Coach 

 
 

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