Orgasms and
more orgasms...
Pam Babbitt, Editor
Most lovers want them. Some try very
hard to get them. And many believe that orgasms are the only
way to prove that sex was good.
Like snowflakes, orgasms are uniquely beautiful, no matter
how they show up. They may be earth moving, heart thumping,
full body blasters, out-of-body odysseys, toe curlers, skin tinglers, hair raisers, or the good old Rocky Mountain “YeeHaaw.”
As Steve and Lokita mention, on a tantric path lovers may incorporate techniques to build up
the erotic energy and distribute it throughout the body,
creating a highly blissful and spiritual state.
You may enjoy full body orgasms and also multiple orgasms!
Would you like to learn tantric
techniques to invite and allow an abundance of O's - big
orgasms, little orgasms, full body orgasms, and multiple
orgasms?
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Orgasmic Bliss
Steve and Lokita Carter
Does Tantra help to achieve a full body orgasm? Can both men and
women enjoy multiple orgasms? Does tantric lovemaking last longer?
These questions are asked often by individuals who are starting on
the tantric path, and they have as many answers as there are people
asking it.
We were born with the gear for making love and pleasuring
ourselves, but “having it” doesn’t mean that we know how to use it
to its fullest. Hardly anyone was fortunate enough to be taught the
art of lovemaking. Luckily it’s never too late to learn and expand…
whether you are 19 or 90…
In ordinary lovemaking, the feelings, attention, and energy are
focused mainly in one area: the genitals. The sensations in our
genitals are delightful, however, by being focused on “down there”
there is a goal and when that goal is realized, this particular
sexual episode is over.
In tantric lovemaking, movement, breath, sound and presence are the
keys to expand our ecstatic energy and spread it throughout the
whole body. Using these keys allows the
expansion of bliss and
ecstasy rather than release of energy. This is what we call
"orgasmic bliss".
 The body can actually contain a vast sexual energy, and when this
sexual energy is built up and held in the genitals, release is
inevitable - the point of no return. Instead, you can consciously
decide to distribute your energy throughout the whole body, thus
increasing the body’s capacity for more energy and more pleasure.
And why not continue going higher and higher in lovemaking, even to
the point where there is so much ecstasy in the whole body that you
become bliss and you don't have to do anything to stay in bliss?
This can be a spiritual experience - you become one with God,
yourself and your partner.
The One Big O and Many Little o’s
Orgasm is defined as “involuntary redistribution of energy”. For
example, a sneeze falls into this category. So does the One Big O.
And so do the many little o’s that we experience throughout the day.
Observe yourself. Do you feel a tremor in your body when you taste
chocolate mousse or smell a fragrant, perfect rose? Those are more
subtle little o’s and they can be triggered by anything that is
pleasurable to you.
Generally, orgasm is associated with genitals, as in “the One Big
O”. We all know the delicious feeling when we have a Big O – either
through self-pleasuring or lovemaking with our beloved. An
incredible release of energy happens, our mind stops, our body
contracts and lets go, contracts and lets go, undulating in
uncontrollable orgasmic spasms. This orgasmic movement feels good.
And it does not have to be related to the genitals. Perhaps you have
experienced the following: after a Big O, you relax deeply, you let
go completely. This deep relaxation is a conduit through which your
orgasmic energy flows into every cell of your being. The sensations
could be shivers, your body shakes a little, and you feel as if
streams of electrical currents rush through your body like
lightning.
The energy moving from the base of the spine upward is what we call
a "little o". This reflex, or the little o’s can be activated
anytime, independently of the genitals; for example by smelling that
fragrant rose, or enjoying that chocolate mousse mentioned above, or
by sharing an embrace. This experience is healing for mind, body and
soul, and by cultivating it, pleasure will be abundant in life.
We are blessed to have this phenomenon built into our body.
Unfortunately, Western culture has taught us to repress pleasure and
our ecstatic self. Knowing this, we can now consciously begin to
enjoy the day’s many little o’s and expand all aspects of our daily
life into a truly orgasmic experience. Begin to notice this energy,
however subtle it may be, welcome this sensuous part of yourself and
validate yourself each time you experience a little o.
Our motto is:
forget about the One Big O
and enjoy the abundance of
the little o's!
© 2003 Steve & Lokita Carter
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