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Tantra Can Teach Men to Have Multiple
Orgasms
Tantra is such a vast subject that
it's fascinating and awe-inspiring. It includes so much that it can
be very confusing to the beginning student. Tantra is an art, a
science, a way of life that is honest and courageous. It includes
and faces squarely our sexual energy, this
awesome force that some religions fear and want to suppress.
It can be used to help us reach our highest potential of pleasure,
and union with the divine. To achieve this, it offers a series of
exercises in breathing, tone vibrations, the use of certain muscles,
and concentration on certain symbols representing the energy centers
of the body. One of the techniques it teaches allows men to have an
orgasm without ejaculating, which makes it possible for him to come
again and again.
How is this possible? Well, by using tantric techniques, such as
breathing, visualizing, and squeezing the love muscles to draw
sexual energy from the sex organs up the spine to the back of the
brain, a man can learn to ride the waves of orgasm and start
coasting along the crest of those waves like a skilled surfer. He
can go down in the valley of the wave and enjoy playing more safely
in a sweet and intensive romantic/spiritual space, absorbing the
benefits resulting from the heightened pleasure he just achieved. He
feels as if he's buzzing with energy, more open and tender toward
his partner and himself. They can look into each other’s eyes,
exchange gentle caresses, or simply breathe together to expand the
state of bliss. All this can be done without the man losing the
precious life-force contained in his semen. Then the couple can
proceed to make love actively, and reach several peaks in one love
session. After having reached several peaks and experienced several
body orgasms, the man can choose to have an ejaculatory orgasm if
desired.
How quickly a man can learn to control his ejaculation response
depends on how much he practices these tantra techniques, and the
attitude he practices with. It's almost a paradox: The more patient
and loving you are with yourself, the less in a hurry to achieve
quick results, the faster you'll learn. That's because relaxation is
the key, and you can't be relaxed if you're very goal-oriented. When
you're goal-oriented, you're tense and usually judgmental. Ideas
like, "I don't know if I'll ever learn this stuff.....Perhaps it's
not for me....I'm wasting my time...." or similar discouraging
thoughts will retard the process of learning.
So be positive and loving. Start with self-pleasuring sessions as
though you would pleasure the body of a god, or a person you love
and admire. In such a case you wouldn't care how long it takes that
person to learn ejaculation control, or anything else. It helps if
you set the mood by lighting a candle, burning your favorite
incense, and perhaps having some of your favorite flowers or
inspiring pictures in view. The right kind of music can help set the
right atmosphere for relaxation as well. Each time you pleasure
yourself and feel an ejaculation approaching, try to become more
consciously aware of all the signals your body is sending you. With
practice, you'll be better able to anticipate--and then
regulate--your reaction.
By the way, the more I work with clients concerned about ejaculation
control, the more I realize that the word "control" is not really
appropriate. It's rather a redistribution of energy throughout the
body. With breathing techniques and the use of your PC
(pubo-coccygeal) muscles, you engage your imagination. Visualize
that you're bringing the very hot energy that has collected around
your genitals to the rest of your body--especially to your
heart--mixed with a feeling of love for yourself. It's almost as if
you're opening up a dam and letting the flow of water run along the
river. Imagine that it's a river of warm energy, love and light,
spreading throughout your body.
Most men need to try more than one session before they can actually
own the techniques that will extend their pleasure by postponing
their ejaculation. While reading about these tantra techniques can
point you in the right direction, it really helps when someone
knowledgeable can guide you through the experience, and this is one
of the areas where an experienced Tantric practitioner can aid you
immensely in your practice.
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