Good breathing can promote a better sex life. Sound
outrageous? Too simple? The truth is it’s outrageously simple.
Breath is the ultimate catalyst for sexual pleasure. It is the
bridge between mind and body, and focusing on it can anchor us to
the present. It unhooks us from all those thoughts cursing through
our brains and connects us with our
essential life energy (prana, chi, ki). Breathing creates
receptivity in our body and an intimate connection with our partner.
Are you breathing?
Let’s try something: Sit face to face with your
partner. Maintain a soft gaze with your left eyes for several
minutes. Now shift your gaze to the rise and fall of their abdomen
and chest as they breathe. Place a hand on your partner’s abdomen
and feel the expansion. By now you
may have naturally synchronized your breathing. Close your eyes and
listen to the breath as it enters and leaves your bodies. Now add a
sound with your exhale. Did you notice a relaxation in your body
posture? Did a smile creep across your face? Synchronized breathing
is an intimate bond. You are telling your partner, “I see you and I
resonate with you.” And you've just experienced one of
the basic tantra techniques.
Breath control is
a multi-purpose tool and it is available to all of us. Shallow
breathing allows for shallow emotions; deep breathing can bring
incredible emotional release. Each of our emotional states
corresponds with a unique breath signature, and with intentional
breath control we can actually induce a specific emotional
experience. Alter your breath and you will alter the experience.
Rapid breathing
can increase arousal; slow, deep breathing can keep you on the edge
of sexual pleasure; long slow exhalations can assist you in letting
go; extended inhalations can assist in developing your assertiveness
and self-confidence.
When you and your partner are highly
aroused, become still, gaze softly into each other’s left eye,
breathe slowly and deeply together. Visualize moving your intense
sexual energy up from your genitals throughout your body. This will
deepen your energetic connection and prolong your pleasure.
Breathing techniques can also delay an orgasm and
extend and intensify the experience.
Let's try another of the basic tantra
techniques:
Use your breath to embrace sensations. Relax on the floor, wiggle
the toes on your left foot and now meet the sensation with your
breath. You can do it. Your lungs may not reach that far, but your
awareness of your breathing can reach anywhere. Breathe easily and
reach toward those wigglers with your breath as you visualize a
complete circuit of breath embracing the sensation. Your breath is
increasing your ability to experience the sensation and also
transporting it throughout your body. Let your imagination take over
and play with some breathing exercises to embrace pleasurable sensations, solo or
with a partner. This is a great way to fine tune your body to fully
experience sensual touch and to connect intimately with another.
There are many
breathing techniques to practice, though any awareness that you
bring to your breathing before and during love making may greatly
increase your pleasure potential. As with meditation and prayer,
desire is the key.
Just do it and don’t get caught up in technique.
Our bodies have
all the tools and hold all the answers. Our most precious knowledge
is our body’s own intuitive knowing. True growth and healing begin
when we unearth that knowing and celebrate its expression.
Blessings
on your journey!
