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Yab Yum for Connection and Love
Pam Babbitt, Tantra Coach
 

The term may sound strange, but once you've tried it, I bet you will remember it - often. Yab yum refers to a basic tantric sex position. It also represents the union of opposites, like the mas­culine and feminine forces of yin and yang. While this position is traditionally tantric, I encourage you to consider it, regardless of your views on tantric sex. Call it "foreplay."

In the yab yum position, one partner, usually the male, sits with his legs crossed as his partner straddles in his lap.  The lovers wrap their legs around each other and place a hand on each other's  heart chakra, with the other on their partner's back.

You may be fully dressed, in your sarongs, or unclothed. It is essential that both partners be comfortable, so please modify as needed - possibly with legs outstretched or a cushion supporting you.

You will see that yab yum is a great position to start that slow, sweet energy connection with your lover. -
 

Be fully present, relaxed, and allow your (energy) bodies to speak to each other. With partner longevity, your chakras may even develop their own "language" to communicate with each other.  Breathe deeply and surrender to the flow.

From this position, you may want to gradually proceed to-ward intercourse.  Move your bodies together as closely as possible, and if the male part­ner has an erection, it may put pressure on the woman's clit­oris. With your arms around each other's back, slowly rock back and forth, moving just a few inches. Very arousing!

Rather than doing the usual thrusting with penetration, this is a great time to remain total­ly still and focus on the subtle sensations in your genitals.  Syn­chronize your breathing, add some PC squeezes, and notice the erotic energy increasing.

Maintain eye contact when you can, keep breathing, and enjoy the sweet merging of energies.

 

For more on Yab-Yum, visit Tantric Sex Positions for Intimacy and Ecstasy.

 

 

 

You may currently be  practicing some tantric sex tech­niques and positions without knowing it.   Bodies naturally gravitate toward what feels good.   Have fun as you build on the sex techniques and positions that you are currently en­joying as you explore the options on these pages. 

 

 

From the Editor

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