A brief review – I’ve asked you to look at your genitals with loving
eyes, noticing all the beautiful and unique markings, colors,
textures and shapes.
Did a name come to you that feels right? If not take your time, and
spend more time noticing, stroking, loving, and celebrating. Your
name will come.
Why do we name things? We give objects and people names because they
are significant to us. Because we want them to have a unique
identification. Because we care for them and because we are proud
of them. As anchors, names help to strengthen a connection. In
naming your penis, you are claiming it and honoring it.
The Sanskrit word for penis is ‘lingam’, meaning wand of light. Brilliant!
We are going to honor and celebrate your lingam in a Tantric naming
ritual. (If Tantra is not your thing, just amend the ceremony with
your own essence.) I’ve designed this ritual for a lover to
facilitate, though you may certainly modify as needed. Your lover
may share all aspects of this ritual, if you are both comfortable
doing so.
Prepare Yourself
Take a long warm shower or a luxurious bath. Got a hot tub? How about
immersing yourself as slowly and as quietly as you can, making no
ripples. Keep the jets off and practice stillness. You may also want
to smudge with sage or another herb for a cleansing ritual.
Now decide on your ritual garb. A sarong? Your old football jersey?
Your lucky bowling shirt? Or your birthday suit? Whatever works for
you works.
Prepare Your Sacred Space
Find a tranquil spot in your home or in nature. Bring in some items
that are special to you, anything that just feels good or connects
to your heart and spirit. Some suggestions are your favorite fuzzy
blanket, that rock that you found when you sat by the river, a lock
of hair, a photograph, flowers… You will be sitting on the floor (or
ground) so include some padding for comfort.
Engage your senses – incorporate some incense or aromatherapy. You
may want to add some gentle and soothing music. And candles! Is the
room a comfortable temperature for you?
Prepare a tray with two candles, a small vessel of scented blessing
oil, possibly rose petals, or another treasure from Mother Earth,
and a piece of red cloth – velvet or silky.
You’ve prepared your body, and you’ve prepared the space.
Now for the ceremony -
Enter your Sacred Space with your lover and sit on the floor facing
each other. Spend several minutes gazing into your beloved’s eyes
and breathing in harmony. When you feel the divine connection, you
will each light a candle, make eye contact as you place your right
hand on your partner’s heart chakra, your left hand directly behind
on your lover’s back, and ask permission to share this honoring
ceremony.
Your lover will now slowly undress you and place the red cloth
directly under your lingam as you are seated. Maintain eye contact
when possible.
Your lover will speak these words –
“(Lingam name) I see you. I welcome you, and I bless you with this
oil.
(Put a finger in the vessel and then gently touch lingam to anoint
with the oil.)
You are a sacred and precious gift from the Creator.
You are magnificent in all your many faces and postures.
You are honored and cherished when you are soft and vulnerable, as
well as when you are in your strong Shiva energy.
You are unique and perfect as you are.
You need not hide and you need no armor of protection.
You are an instrument of pleasure in all your forms.
(Lingam name) I charge you to proudly embrace all that you are.”
Gradually bring the ceremony to an end. You may wish to sit quietly
with your lover, engage in a full body hug or spoon, or ask your
lover to wrap you, cocoon-style, in a blanket or sheet. Or, your
lover may honor you with the
Chakra
Prayer for Healing. If feelings
arise, just be with them. There is nothing that you must do.
