I offer you my presence.
Presence is the ability and the desire to be here, with you,
now, in the unknown, in the feeling, whether it be joy, discomfort,
sadness, awkwardness, sweetness. Presence is the desire
to explore the feeling with you.
Presence is the commitment to communicate as clearly as possible at
any moment about how I am experiencing this moment.
Presence is the ability to listen, and to create and hold space for
you to explore your inner mystery.
Presence is the respect of your
mystery.
Presence has no agenda.
Full presence is a foundation for other tantra techniques.
Practice it when you can, and soon it will be your norm. You
will notice, too, that you are becoming more relaxed and present in
all areas of your life - work, parenting ...
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Partner Connect
Exercise
Find a quiet, comfortable space with no
interruptions.
Put on your sarongs (or your birthday suit!) and lie on your
sides facing, toes touching, with top arms resting lightly on
each other’s body. Use gentle taps to move from step to step.
1.
Allow your bodies to surrender into relaxation with your eyes
closed, 5 minutes.
2. Now
gaze softly into each other’s left eye as you notice the sparkle,
depth, and divinity. Relax your vision and blink as needed. Allow a
gentle merging and melting. Maintain
for about 5 minutes.
3. Breathe slowly, deeply, and synchronized as you continue to gaze for
about 5 minutes.
4. Take turns speaking softly as you briefly share what you see in each
other. It may be a soft heart and strong masculine energy, or a
beautiful being who is blossoming into motherhood.
5.
Enjoy a sweet, slow tantric kiss, barely touching lips, as you
focus on the soft skin sensations.
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Thank your partner for sharing this sacred time and separate
slowly allowing your bodies a gradual disconnect. As
you resume your day, maintain silence for as long as is comfortable.
This is one of my favorite tantra
techniques as it is simple, effortless, and can be done
before you get out of bed in the morning or before you go to
sleep at night. And it may become habit forming!
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Instant Advanced Meditation
Being relaxed and fully
present are foundational elements for any tantra experience.
Here's a simple meditation that can be done anytime, anywhere,
in any position, during any activity, or no activity. And
there's no preparation at all.
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Notice
all that is in front of you - people, animals, landscapes, objects - everything. |
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Include all of your senses - what you
see, hear, feel, taste and smell. |
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Relax and sink into the thought. |
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Be open and present with the thought -
what you notice may surprise you. |
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If you get distracted, simply repeat the
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This IAM - Instant Advanced
Meditation, is from Steven Sashen of Boulder, Colorado. It
is equally useful in all situations - making love, arguing, any
situation at all, and can be a useful tantra technique. Here's more information with a free
introduction and two free
guided meditation audios from
Steven Sashen.
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Sex Coach Says
Hands, Hearts
and Healing
Hands are extensions of the heart, so what is
happening in your heart is significant. Before
engaging in sensual or sexual touch, take a
moment to listen to your heart. Is it
clear and loving? Or is there judgment and
anger? Whatever energy is present will interact with your partner's energy. Is
this the right time for you to engage in touch?
Heart energy trumps technique, and intuition trumps
learned knowledge. If you find yourself in
your head during the massage, visualize your
heart, and now see a stream of brilliant energy
flowing from it, though your arms, into your
hands and into your partner.
If you would like to support your partner in
releasing a pattern that no longer serves,
massage in a counter-clockwise direction.
To strengthen a pattern or trait, or invite in
a new one, massage in a clockwise direction.
Healing touch is an essential part of any wellness
plan - and is a foundation for other tantra
techniques. Engage often - it'll do your body
and your relationship good.
Pam
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