You may be wondering, "Is the timing right for me to
explore Tantra and Sacred Sexuality?" We've all heard the saying
that "timing is everything" and we believe that to be true in a very
deep way. What we also believe to be true is that we sometimes turn
away from an opportunity either because we aren't listening to our
hearts, or because of lack of trust in the perfection of that
timing. Exploring Sacred Sexuality is a very personal decision.
And though so much is about trust and timing, it is sometimes also
helpful to know a little bit more about the potential for experience
and learning when feeling into, “Is the timing right?”
In our experience of working with
people in both workshops and private sessions, we have witnessed
the timing being perfect so many times and in so many ways. Some
people have either seen something about Tantra on TV; perhaps an
HBO special or an episode of Sex in the City, or read something
about it in a magazine, or have even picked up a book or two and
read parts or all of it on their own or with their partner, but
have not had the opportunity to explore more deeply. Perhaps
they felt that it was too scary or risky to explore more, or
they felt that the timing just wasn't right, or they felt ready
but their partner wasn't, or they didn't know where to look for
further learning and experience.
And then, viola',
what seems like all of a sudden, they start hearing about Tantra
and Sacred Sexuality from friends who have taken a workshop to
learn Tantra, or
friends start telling them about a book that they have read or
someone forwards them this or a newsletter or a workshop flyer out of the blue and they start to
think, "Maybe the Universe is trying to tell me something. Maybe
it's time to delve deeper into the sacredness of the divine
connection between sex and spirit. Maybe I'm ready to explore this part of my life in a way
that I haven't before."
We’ve heard from numerous people about some of
those experiences. We’ve also heard of people
exploring some other ways of deepening into themselves - such
as yoga, sensual dance, psychotherapy, massage, or sex
therapy, and that practice has opened them to being 'ready' to
explore what Tantra has to offer.
We’ve witnessed couples take
workshops where one or the other of them have dragged the other
there, kicking, screaming and resisting,
only to find more love and connection with each other than they ever
imagined. We’ve experienced women discovering their inner Goddess -
that place in themselves that never had permission to shine, dance,
express and feel! We’ve seen men discover how being vulnerable and
open can add to their ability to love themselves and another more
deeply.
What this practice offers is the
potential to go deeper into your own divine energy - sexually,
sensually, spiritually, and passionately, with direct awareness and attention to your heart
opening. Considering opening our hearts can sometimes be scary, but
with applying the gentleness of allowing, rather than forcing, we
can be easy on ourselves and take away the expectations and have-to's,
and replace them with intentions and awakenings.
Using breath,
sound, intention and movement to invite healing and connection, we
can create more love in our own bodies, minds and spirits. We can
transform stuck, clogged energy centers into open and healed areas
that are ready to give and receive more love. This,
and so much more, is what Tantra offers.
So, consider whether the 'timing is right
to learn tantra.' What have
the messages been for you? Do they keep showing up in different, yet
familiar forms? Is there a longing for deeper connection to yourself
and others? Breathe. Trust that the answer is already there.
Breathe. Listen.
