Sexual
energy is not the same as the “sexuality” we are socially conditioned to notice as a tantalizing, often troubling aspect of
being human. Sexual energy is the natural life force that animates
our incarnate beings and holds us in sacred tension with the
mysterious dance of separation/union with the Divine.
It holds the key to living fully, gratefully, and ecstatically. It
has nothing to do with isolation, fear, or shame. It has everything
to do with affirmation, joy, and health. For me, “sexuality” is sex
run through the ego-mind. “Sexual energy” is sex run through the
body and divine-mind. This is a tantric, rather than mundane,
approach to our most vital energy.
Instead of processing every sexual experience through the brain,
with all of its imprints of judgment, loss, and anxiety … consider
opening to it anew, with a level of cellular trust and appreciation
supported by the simple ABC’s of … Awareness, Breath, and
Connection.
Awareness: Opening and attuning to the subtle currents of
information deeply embedded in every physical experience of my body.
Changing the relationship between my mind and my body, such that I
no longer …
• Make automatic assumptions about what different sensations “mean”
or whether they “matter” – each piece of feed-back has fresh meaning
in this moment.
• Discount the “little things” I feel as either entirely normal (can
be taken for granted) or just anomalous (transient and not worth
attending to) – if something even brushes against the sensitive
cilia of my consciousness, it is calling for attention.
• Try to dampen or mitigate unexpected, uncomfortable, or even
painful sensations – often, what the mind considers inconvenient,
the body holds as essential.
Awareness is about awakening to sensation and choosing to bring
mindfulness to each experience. Valuing everything I feel as
feedback, as an invitation for new levels of attention and
understanding. The opportunity – the privilege! – to experience
consciousness.
Notice: What am I experiencing, right now?
Breath: Consciously appreciating life’s most basic mechanism as an
incredibly generous infusion of prana, movement, and rhythm. As a
celebration of my continuous access to resource and inspiration.
Honoring the sacred cycle – the ongoing dance – between the bringing
of gifts inward, the holding and integration of these gifts within,
followed by the release back outward, changed but in no way
diminished. Each breath quietly …
•
Washes my physical being in a flow of resource and renewal,
encouraging the release of that which has been fully expended, is no
longer needed, and ready to be shared.
• Infuses my energetic system with life’s invisible yet numinous and
enlivening support for health, healing, and growth.
• Brings my conscious being into attunement with the innate balance
between inward and outward existence, undermining the ego’s
preference for rigid boundaries and protective shells.
Breath is about awakening to life’s abundant dance and choosing
jubilant participation in each moment. Valuing every cycle of
inhalation and exhalation as an invitation for new levels of
vitality and refreshment. The opportunity – the privilege! – to
experience vibrancy.
Notice: Am I allowing myself to be resourced and renewed, right now?
Connection:
Choosing to be open, available and present to life’s
offerings, bringing my whole self forward, without shielding or
withholding, to embrace the potential for union that pervades my
essence. Acknowledging the divine wholeness that holds all of life
in an unrestricted embrace, unobtrusively allowing me to experience
the personal decisions that separate and wound … or reconcile and
heal. Dropping the blinders so I appreciate …
• That preferences and expectations simply get in
the way of life’s abundant offerings and miracles, depriving me
of the wonderment inherent in each awareness, each breath.
• The call for sacred union in every situation, every choice and
action.
• The opportunity for celebrating – and participating in – life’s
wholeness in every interaction, without pre-conditions or
qualification.
Connection is what calls me into the creative tension and dynamic
dance of life – to engage personally with the yin-yang, the Shiva-Shakti,
the creator-destroyer energies that have been honored and deified
for ages. My soul feels the pain of separation only because it has
known the bliss of divine union and yearns to experience it again.
Connection is about reclaiming my sacred inheritance. The
opportunity – the privilege! – to experience wholeness.
Notice: How
am I contributing to wholeness and healing – within and around me –
right now?
ABC’s remind us of the basics, of the child-like simplicity of
learning the foundations upon which a lifetime of lessons can be
built. The invitation is here to start anew, with the trust and
innocence of your original inner template … and explore what is
possible starting in this moment. After all, a whole lifetime of new
lessons and possibilities still awaits!
