Orgasm,
Ejaculation and Tantra
Lokita Carter
In
one Chinese tantra book, I read that the male could transfer his orgasm
to others parts of the body so it did not lead to ejaculation which also
allowed him to continue to have sex. Is there any truth to this?
James
Dear
James,
Yes, it is true. You don’t need ejaculation in order to experience
orgasm.
In ordinary lovemaking, the feelings, attention, and energy are focused
mainly in one area: the genitals. The sensations in our genitals are
delightful, however, by being focused on “down there” there is a goal
and when that goal is realized, this particular sexual episode is over.
In tantric lovemaking, we use what we call “The 4 Keys to Orgasmic
Bliss” - movement, breath, sound and presence - to expand our ecstatic
energy and spread it throughout the whole body. Using these keys allows
the expansion of bliss and ecstasy rather than release of energy. That’s
why we call it "orgasmic bliss".
The body can actually contain a vast sexual energy, and when this sexual
energy is built up and held in the genitals, release is inevitable - the
point of no return. Instead, you can consciously decide to distribute
your energy throughout the whole body, thus increasing the body’s
capacity for more energy and more pleasure. Energy follows intention!
And why not continue going higher and higher in lovemaking, even to the
point where there is so much ecstasy in the whole body that you become
bliss and you don't have to do anything to stay in bliss? This can be a
spiritual experience - you become one with God, yourself and your
partner.
The One Big O and Many Little o’s
We define orgasm as “involuntary redistribution of energy”. A sneeze,
for example, falls into this category. So does the One Big O. And so do
the many little o’s that we experience throughout the day. Observe
yourself. Do you feel a tremor in your body when you taste chocolate
mousse or smell a fragrant, perfect rose? Those are more subtle little
o’s and they can be triggered by anything that is pleasurable to you.
Generally, we are after “the One Big O”. A release of energy happens,
our mind stops, our body contracts and lets go, contracts and lets go,
undulating in uncontrollable orgasmic spasms. This orgasmic movement
feels good.
But as I said, it does not have to be related to the genitals. Perhaps
you have experienced the following: after a Big O, you relax deeply, you
let go completely. This deep relaxation is a conduit through which your
orgasmic energy flows into every cell of your being. The sensations
could be shivers, your body shakes a little, and you feel as if streams
of electrical currents rush through your body like lightning.
The energy moving from the base of the spine
upward is what we call a "little o". This reflex, or the little o’s can
be activated anytime, independently of the genitals; for example by
smelling that fragrant rose, or enjoying that chocolate mousse
mentioned above, or by sharing an embrace. This experience is healing
for mind, body and soul, and by cultivating it, pleasure will be
abundant in life.
We are blessed to have this phenomenon built into our body.
Unfortunately, Western culture has taught us to repress pleasure and our
ecstatic self. Knowing this, we can now consciously begin to enjoy the
day’s many little o’s and expand all aspects of our daily life into a
truly orgasmic experience. Begin to notice this energy, however subtle
it may be, welcome this sensuous part of yourself and validate yourself
each time you experience a little o.
Our motto is: forget
about the One Big O and enjoy the abundance of the little o's!
If you would like to learn more about “The 4 Keys to Orgasmic Bliss”,
let me know!
© 2009 Lokita Carter
Lokita Carter has been teaching Tantra together with her husband
Steve since 1999 in over 325 workshops and vacation retreats to couples
and singles from all walks of life. Steve & Lokita are tantric lovers in
a 11-year monogamous marriage, the official lineage holders of Margot
Anand in the USA, the founders of the Institute for Ecstatic Living and
co-direct the SkyDancing Tantra Institute.
Visit them at
www.ecstaticliving.com.
© Lokita Carter
2009
