I know what I want,
how can I make it happen?
Robert ‘Baba Dez’ Nichols
Not long ago, I ran into my friend Jill
at the post office. We fell into a conversation about how the
relationship she truly desired kept eluding her in spite of her
intelligence, physical beauty, and financial success. Then I ran
into Scott at the market hurrying to get to work. We exchanged a
couple of witty remarks about “the old grind” and he suddenly said
with some seriousness, “I have a great family, a great relationship,
a great appreciation for life, and… I hate my job.” Why is it that
some of things we desire seem to fall into our lap, while other
things
seem
unachievable?
Many of us have been dreaming, visualizing,
affirming, praying, even crying and screaming for what we want and
our desires continue to go unmet.
Throughout time human beings have sought to build the power
necessary for manifestation. Breaking down what happens between the
moment of initial desire and actual manifestation has become a major
area of study for many of us. Most realize that it requires some
power or energy to make things happen or manifest something.
What are the sources of energy available to us and how do we tap
into these sources? There is Divine Energy, which is the power that
is behind all of creation. This encompasses the stars, our sun, the
planets, and every object and being in our reality. The closest and
easiest power source to learn from, tap into and study is the power
source of our own beings. Where are we building personal power and
where are we draining it? Often times we are losing power and we are
not even aware that we are doing so. It is crucial that we become
more attuned to our power and deepen in our awareness to plug the
leaks and harness the power within ourselves.
Our
ability to feel what is happening with our energy and how we are
expending it is critical. This requires awareness and sensitivity.
As a society we are conditioned to avoid certain feelings, which
dampens our overall ability to feel. Consequently, our response to
the emotions and situations that create these feelings is muted and
incomplete. Feeling fully and deeply is a good thing. Our ability to
feel is directly related to the emotional body. The emotional body
is part of the feminine aspect or principle, whereas awareness,
responding, and choosing are part of the mind or the masculine
aspect.
One might draw an analogy between our ideal natural state and the
proverbial Garden of Eden, where all desires were met and everything
was provided. Judeo-Christian tenets would seek to place the
responsibility for our “falling from grace” on Eve, who represents
the feminine. This is only one small example of how we are
encouraged to polarize the feminine and masculine aspects of our
being. These erroneous beliefs become anchored in the subconscious
and continue the internal rift between the mind and the emotions or
the masculine and feminine aspects.
This disconnection and the dispossession of
the emotional body are a direct result of the discrediting of the
female aspect and detachment from feminine energy that has been
perpetuated by the masculine dominated patriarchy. There are many
best selling fiction and non-fiction books today that address this
issue. Some offer support for healing and restoration. As more
consciousness arises and we acknowledge that we must heal these
unhealthy paradigms, many of us are inspired to answer the call by
creating awareness and transformation deep within ourselves. As we
heal ourselves, the consciousness we feel can begin to direct itself
outward to all of creation including our families, communities,
nations, and world.
Ultimately, the marriage of the divine feminine and masculine is
reflected internally by the alignment and merging of our own
emotional body and mind. The resulting equanimity and clarity we
receive is the basis of our power to manifest desire.
This healing and marriage is not a mental process although the mind
plays a very important role. Without the mind opening up and letting
go of its agenda and bullying, there is little room for the
emotional body to stand by its side in total partnership. The
emotional body needs to be recognized, reclaimed, protected,
honored, and exercised.
Easier said than done. The mind often thinks that this new way of
relating will result in pain and death. And in a way the mind is
right. The pain is about being willing to feel all of the suffering
the physical body, emotional body, and heart has endured for so long
under the tyranny of the mind. And the death is about the death of
an old entrenched way that the mind learned in order to survive in a
reality of fear, guilt, and competition.
When the mind is willing to hold the space and
witness this process, the stage is set for something amazing to
happen.
As the mind opens to receive this backlog of painful and previously
unresolved emotions a merging occurs. It is the divine marriage of
the mind and emotional body, or our internal masculine and feminine.
In this new union of love and acceptance the Heart and the Body are
transformed and reborn. Held resentment, anger, and sadness are
expressed and released. The mind embraces its sacred job, to witness
without judgment, hold space, create safety, discern, and choose
appropriately. The gifts start arriving. New information, insights,
inspiration, and energy that were previously withheld are now
flowing in from the emotional body, physical body, and heart.
This new relationship is a conduit to Divine energy and we start to
tap into the unlimited resources of the universe. In this place we
feel all of our desire, let go of our desire, and experience the
merging of our desire with Divine desire. This is also known as the
Tantric Path.
Now comes the juicy part. When we merge with another in sacred
sexual union and are fully feeling each others emotional bodies in
alignment with our hearts and physical bodies, the combined desire
and intent are amplified to a quantum degree. We merge with Divinity
and are able to manifest heaven on earth. And yes, we also get the
relationship and job we always wanted.
Baba Dez is a transformational guide and Daka trained in the sacred
sexual healing arts. It is his path and honor to support others on
their journey, deepen in their truth and power, find enjoyment in
transformation, and bring in beneficial grounded results.
© Robert ‘Baba Dez’ Nichols 2004
