11 Hot Tips For Lasting Longer in Bed
Ever wanted to achieve more sexual pleasure for you and your partner?
Have you ever felt like your sexual patterns are preventing you and your
lover from experiencing sex as blissfully as you know it can be? Does the prospect of having sex sometimes seem too daunting just because
of a history of unsatisfying experiences?
Changing your sexual patterns may be a burning issue for you,
or a passing
curiosity, or perhaps you know someone that could benefit from this
information.
In any case, I am sure you will find the following informative and
interesting.
1. Slow down.
It may seem obvious, but the number one way to make sex last longer is
to do everything slower. Breathing, feeling, foreplay, kissing and intercourse are all parts of
the sex act that do not need to be rushed.
2. Give everything time.
Every moment in sex is worth experiencing fully. Let things unfold in their own time and you will be rewarded with richer
experiences during sex and more learning and satisfaction from sex.
3. Deepen your breathing.
Our breath connects us deeply to our body and its rhythms, as well as
the rhythm of other bodies near us. Focusing on breathing also helps to quiet the mind and sooth any
internal dialogue that may be interfering with our natural enjoyment of
the sex.
Here's a hint, try synchronizing your deep, slow breathing with your
partner's.
4. Let go of expectations.
Without expectations around sex, we are free to more naturally savor
the experience … however it is! We can be more open to the experience and learn more as a result. Without expectations we free ourselves from disappointment. Here's a trick … see if you can implement these techniques to improve
your sex, without caring whether they work!
5. Focus on pleasure in sex rather than the sex act or outcome.
Regardless of certain ideas of sex perpetuated in the world, sex is not
about the ending, it is about the whole experience. Getting the girl, having an orgasm, giving an orgasm … these are all
important aspects of sex. But the most important element of sex is pleasure! When you start enjoying every moment of sex … it will go on as long as
you want!
6. Increase knowledge of your body.
Take the time to understand what brings you pleasure and learn how to
pleasure yourself better. Don't forget to share your new knowledge with
your partner too. Read up about anatomy. The human body is amazing!
7. Increase knowledge of your partner's body.
Don't be afraid to ask questions and always be open to trying new things
in bed. Explore every part of your partner's body like you have never
seen or touched it before. Every time you engage in sex it is a perfect opportunity to expand your
sexual knowledge. You can learn a lot about the human body by asking friends about their
experiences too.
8. Reframe sex as a nurturing healing act.
When we attach shame and guilt to sex it is no wonder that it doesn't
flow naturally. Adjust your mindset around sex to reflect only positive
aspects. Sex feels so good, how could a gift like this be anything other than
healing!
9. Let go of performance anxiety.
Performance anxiety is unnecessary. Be kind to
yourself. Learn to forgive yourself if things don't go perfectly, and
then learn to stop caring about perfect anyway.
10. Feel your body from within.
Our sensual experience can be deepened
dramatically by focusing on our experience from
within our body. Get out of your head and let your consciousness
move to the centre of your body.
11. Be present.
Don't let the mind wander or engage in pointless internal chatter. Don't
let your fantasies and thoughts take you further from the experience at
hand. Be in the present experience and the present moment.
So there you have it. Any of these tips individually can start to impact
on your sexual performance right now. If you learn them all, you will be
a master of your body in and out of the bedroom.
Don't be daunted if it takes a little time though … these are life
changing techniques and may take a bit of practice. And most importantly of course, enjoy yourself practicing!!
Love, Mukee
Mukee Okan is a world renowned sexual therapist and spiritual guide. She
is based in Phoenix and keeps herself busy running workshops and
sessions in Europe, North America, Asia, Australia and New Zealand.
For additional information, visit Mukee at
MasterEjaculation.com.
Copyright © 2009 Mukee Okan
