The Best Sex Positions -
and The Top Mistakes Men Make During Sex
Rod Phillips, Sex Coach
We all want to make sex as good as it can be for our partners. But
there's more to good sex than choosing the best sex position - you have
to know which sex positions and techniques to avoid! So here is a list
of things for men to avoid during sex, along with some advice about the
best sex positions - the ones that will make sex great for both of you!
First Sex Position Mistake 
Pushing your partner to do anything
she isn't comfortable with. So, if you've been thinking of
trying the outrageous sex positions adopted by some porn stars, forget
it! Start from a more realistic place. Being comfortable for a woman
involves two things: first of all, she has to be physically
comfortable. That might mean she isn't going to feel too happy if you
ask her to put her ankles behind her ears while you have sex. It might
also mean that you have to avoid any position that gives you the deepest
penetration, since your penis might bang her cervix and give her some
serious discomfort. Second, she has to be emotionally comfortable.
So if you treat her like one of those porn stars, she may not be too
happy, and you're not likely to be invited back to bed. This includes:
wanting to ejaculate over her without her whole-hearted agreement, using
dirty talk that is disrespectful to her, wanting to slap her butt if she
isn't into it, and generally treating her like a sex object rather than
a person.
Second Sex Position Mistake
Being too much of a gentleman.
There's an old saying: "A gentleman takes his weight on his arms." If
you think this is the best way to behave during sex in the man on top
position, did you ever try asking your partner what she wants? A lot of
women like to feel the weight of their man on top of them during sex -
they say things like: it makes them feel safe, secure, loved, or that
they just like to feel the energy and power of their man in this
position. Sure, if you're a lot heavier than she is, you might squash
her, so exercise some judgment, but generally, in the man on top
position, let her feel your weight!
Third Sex Position Mistake
Don't just lie there all the time
when she's having fun. If she's on top, riding you, remember
that you can still move during sex in this position, even if it's only a
little bit. You can thrust your hips to match her movements, raise your
knees to alter the angle at which your penis enters her vagina, and
caress her breasts and clitoris if she's facing you while you have sex.
Remember - you don't like it if she lies motionless during man on top
sex, so in this position, return the favor and move about yourself!
Fourth Sex Position Mistake
Being too aggressive during sex.
Sure, some women like rough sex, either all the time or once in a while,
but for a woman, sex tends to be something special and she'd like you to
treat it that way too! That means not pumping away aggressively without
her encouragement, not being selfish (i.e. having an orgasm yourself but
not bothering to make sure she has one too), and not moving her around
roughly during sex. If you want to show how much of a man you are by
being a bit dominant, do it with firmness and kindness, rather than
flinging her around the bed like a rag doll. Needless to say, this
advice applies whatever sex position you are using!
Fifth Sex Position Mistake
Sticking to the same old sex
positions every time you make love. Sure, you don't have to try
all the adventurous and challenging positions you can find on the
internet, but a bit of variation really adds spice to your sex life.
Even if you're extremely fond of the man on top position, for example,
sex in the rear entry or side by side positions will let you see things
very differently, may well get you much more aroused, and will certainly
give you both some different sensations! Rod Phillips
Rod Phillips is an online counselor and sexual
therapist at
The Best Guide to Sex Positions
