The Best Sex Positions -
and The Top Mistakes Men Make During Sex
Rod Phillips, Sex Coach
We all want to make sex as good as it can be for our partners. But
there's more to good sex than choosing the best sex position - you have
to know which sex positions and techniques to avoid! So here is a list
of things for men to avoid during sex, along with some advice about the
best sex positions - the ones that will make sex great for both of you!
First Sex Position Mistake 
Pushing your partner to do anything
she isn't comfortable with. So, if you've been thinking of
trying the outrageous sex positions adopted by some porn stars, forget
it! Start from a more realistic place. Being comfortable for a woman
involves two things: first of all, she has to be physically comfortable.
That might mean she isn't going to feel too happy if you ask her to put
her ankles behind her ears while you have sex. It might also mean that
you have to avoid any position that gives you the deepest penetration,
since your penis might bang her cervix and give her some serious
discomfort. Second, she has to be emotionally comfortable. So if you treat
her like one of those porn stars, she may not be too happy, and you're not likely to be invited back to bed. This includes:
wanting to ejaculate over her without her whole-hearted agreement, using
dirty talk that is disrespectful to her, wanting to slap her butt if she
isn't into it, and generally treating her like a sex
object rather than a person.
Second Sex Position Mistake
Being too much of a gentleman. There's an old saying: "A gentleman takes
his weight on his arms." If you think this is the best way to behave
during sex in the man on top position, did you ever try asking your
partner what she wants? A lot of women like to feel the weight of their
man on top of them during sex - they say things like: it makes them feel
safe, secure, loved, or that they just like to feel the energy and power
of their man in this position. Sure, if you're a lot heavier than she
is, you might squash her, so exercise some judgment, but generally, in
the man on top position, let her feel your weight!
Third Sex Position
Mistake
Don't just lie there all the time when she's having fun. If
she's on top, riding you, remember that you can still move during sex in
this position, even if it's only a little bit. You can thrust your hips
to match her movements, raise your knees to alter the angle at which
your penis enters her vagina, and caress her breasts and clitoris if
she's facing you while you have sex. Remember - you don't like it if she
lies motionless during man on top sex, so in this position, return the favor and move about yourself!
Fourth Sex Position Mistake
Being too aggressive during
sex. Sure, some women like rough sex, either all the time or once in a
while, but for a woman, sex tends to be something special and she'd like
you to treat it that way too! That means not pumping away aggressively
without her encouragement, not being selfish (i.e. having an orgasm
yourself but not bothering to make sure she has one too), and not moving
her around roughly during sex. If you want to show how much of a man you
are by being a bit dominant, do it with firmness and kindness, rather
than flinging her around the bed like a rag doll. Needless to say, this
advice applies whatever sex position you are using!
Fifth Sex Position
Mistake
Sticking to the same old sex positions every time you make
love. Sure, you don't have to try all the adventurous and challenging
positions you can find on the internet, but a bit of variation really
adds spice to your sex life. Even if you're extremely fond of the man on
top position, for example, sex in the rear entry or side by side
positions will let you see things very differently, may well get you
much more aroused, and will certainly give you both some different
sensations! Rod Phillips
Rod Phillips is an online counselor and sexual therapist at
The Best
Guide to Sex Positions
