Condoms EVERY Time!
My experience in sustaining agreement to use prophylactics is that the
man involved will use one for the first act of intercourse, then
"forget" for the rest. I have found myself unable to jump up/speak up in
this situation leaving me feeling betrayed and at risk, and I wonder how
others handle this scenario/what to do. Thanks.
It appears you would like the man with whom you are being sexual to be
more concerned about protecting you than his own sensations. In a truly
loving, respectful relationship that is a reasonable expectation. I
think you can take this one of two different directions.
First, the ideal solution would be for you to discuss with your partner,
before you are in the heat of the moment, about the importance to you of
using safer sex practices and that you expect him to use condoms every
time you have intercourse without being monitored.
Secondly, if you find this discussion too difficult yet you want to
protect yourself, either make the use of condoms part of your sex play
(meaning you put them on him) or start using female condoms. Either way
your desire to reduce your risk of sexually transmitted infections will
be met and you can take away the feeling of being betrayed if you are in
control.
