Sex Coach Says
So many couples (and singles) want to have better sex. And so many never
have the conversation. How sad!
Wanting to have better sex is a sensitive issue for most couples,
and there are ways to make it easier. Consider exploring some communication
techniques - which will bring presence, safety, clarity,
balance and heart to your conversations.
As
always, the internet is a great resource, but if you would like
coaching with your unique situation, contact a sex coach and ask how
they can help you and your partner to have better sex. Most
offer phone as well as in-person sessions.
Pam
Babbitt, Editor
SexCoach
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My Partner Wants More Sex -
I Want Better Sex
Author of Getting the Sex You Want
 My
partner wants sex every night. I am happy with once a week and feel like
he should be too. To be honest, the sex is not that great, and I don't
want to hurt his feelings by telling him the truth. By the time the
weekend comes around I am not really into it, but I do it for him. I'm
not sure what he's complaining about.
From frustrated in Franklin
 As
I share in my book, Getting the Sex You Want (look right), it may seem that "just doing it"
is the way to get true relationship satisfaction and long term
fulfillment.
But what happens when resentment, and sometimes frustration, get in the
way? It makes sense you wouldn't want to dive under the covers every
night of the week! Keep this in mind, however that no one knows your body
and what gives you pleasure like YOU do. No one knows what turns you on,
keeps you going, and gets you under those covers better than the person
that lives in your body.
If your partner's not turning you on, TELL them how to do it. In gentle
words, without pointing out what they are doing wrong, send them some
appreciations for what they are doing RIGHT. Tell them in an email, or
text message, or a voice mail, or whisper it in their ear...."Honey, I
really love when you do that thing with....(fill in the blank!)"
Don't expect your partner to read your mind. It's not an indicator that
they care for you less if you have to share with them what turns you on
and gives you pleasure. Its only a sign that you are two different
people with distinct tastes and preferences, that change all the time.
Frequency becomes less of an issue when the quality of your sex life
improves. You both deserve to have the sex that you want, and its up to
you to make that happen.
Passionately yours,
Tammy Nelson
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Sex Coach
Erogenous Zones |
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