The stimulation from a vibrator is very intense, similar to the intense stimulation of pornography. When we continually provide that degree of erotic intensity, our bodies become accustomed to it, then they crave it, then they crave more, and eventually they may become unable to reach satisfaction without it. Keep in mind that most women's bodies respond best to "sensual" sex techniques, rather than unrelenting strong intensity. I don't believe that labeling your practice as an addiction or not is the most important issue here. If your habit of using vibrators is causing you concern, frustration, shame, or partner conflict, take steps to modify your practice and move toward using your vibrator only occasionally.
Start breaking the pattern by adding variety to every aspect of your pleasuring. Change the time of day, the location, your body position, your techniques. Rather than masturbating, plan a "Celebration of Self-Pleasure," incorporating sensual sex techniques. First, create a pleasant space with warmth, candles, your favorite fuzzy pillow, and maybe a favorite drink or sensual snack. Now, allow yourself time to become relaxed using any method that works for you - a warm shower, meditation, soft music. Since sensuality is a foundation for sexuality, use a scented lotion or lubricant that pleases you, or aromatherapy, incense, or scented candles. Incorporate music, heat and cold, feathers, fur, dry body brush, or any other items that will provide wonderful and contrasting sensations on your skin. Making gradual SENSATIONAL changes that add to your pleasure is certainly a fun way to break a habit!
There is another aspect of vibrator use to be
considered - genital numbing. Genitals are very
sensitive to vibration and pressure, in both men
and women. Numbing may occur with prolonged
vibrator use, and especially with static use. If
you notice numbing, refrain from using your
vibrator for about 3 weeks, and likely your full
sensitivity will return - another good reason
for using your vibrator only occasionally, and
incorporating more sensual sex techniques.
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