Truths & Myths -
Better Sex with Aging
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1) The
quality of sex declines with age for both genders.
Changes will occur, and sexual responses will
change. The sexual experience will likely be different, not worse.
Erections may not be as hard, though it may be easier for a man to
prolong the experience and his partner may enjoy the slower build up
of sexual tension and anticipation. Sex may become a whole body
experience, rather than a genitally focused one, enhancing the
sexual experience. You can have better sex as you age -
and great sex too!
A woman’s sexual assertiveness usually increases as she
ages.
Older adults achieve a level of emotional maturity and
confidence which enhance the sexual experience.
2) Lack of lubrication means lack of arousal.
Many factors can effect a woman’s genital lubrication
regardless of age – her diet, exercise routine, medications
(especially allergy and cold medications), and the amount of touch
stimulation. Don’t let lubrication or lack of create anxiety – you
can buy it in a bottle.
3)
A sexual desire is necessary before engaging.
Desire does not need to precede arousal. With stimulation a
person may desire to be sexual. All appetites require a trigger of some
sort. Have you ever tasted something and then realized that you were
hungry? It’s the same with sex.
4)
Aging is more difficult on women than
men.
Men are less likely to discuss and disclose their feelings
around aging issues, particularly changes in their
performance.
Aging may be difficult on both genders.
5)
A woman’s sexual peak is between the
ages of 36 and 38. A man’s sexual peak is around the ages of
19 to 23.
Your sexuality is not determined by a calendar or birth certificate.
Your sexual experience is yours to create at any age. A peak for
you may be determined by a deeply loving relationship, or a partner
who really loves lots of foreplay. You can have better sex at
any age!
6)
Female desire declines dramatically after menopause.
Many women have increased desire, and 72% report no complaints. A
decline in interest usually is caused by hormonal imbalance,
negative thoughts, relationship issues or stress.
