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Are men any less complex or easier to understand than women?
Men are often described as heroes, warriors, protectors,
guardian angels, best friends, providers, beasts, demons, large
children and egotists. Can those many personalities and
qualities fit into one being without creating complexities? Do
women really know and understand men? Is it the design of women
to change men to suit their needs? Do men see women solely for
the service and sexual pleasures they can offer? Every woman
would do well to fully explore the male phenomenon, learn the
truths of men, gain insight into life in their element and
scrutinize the male/female dynamic.
Women and men usually hold a different interpretation of ‘male’.
However, there are certain realities that bring them closer than
one might believe. Yes, they view life a little differently and
their sexual experiences are in contrast, but men come just as
preprogrammed as women, with just as many needs and issues and
are often more vulnerable. Men generally tend to be concrete,
pragmatic, harbor a whimsical spirit and unlike their female
counterparts don’t instinctively equate love with sex. They
often do carry a touch of male ego to accompany their more
serious roles and at any given moment in time can present as Sir
Galahad, Peter Pan, or Captain Hook. That isn’t a case of
multiple personalities, is it simply men being male?
Women often see men through their own design and tend to size
them up for their potential rather than accept their realities.
They train, change and under other false pretenses, manipulate
men to get the results they demand. Men are pre programmed to
respond and have little choice but to conform. There are
instinctive qualities and characteristics however, that are not
likely to be erased as they comply and accept their newly
appointed role. The need for sports, toys and male bonding are
an intrinsic part of their reality and will remain in tact; it’s
a man thing. Those gifts of release offer compensation for the
level of responsibility they are expected assume. All work and
no play do create a rather dark environment.
The man every woman dreams of, is not one of custom design but
comes in his truest form of self. He is genuine, complex, and
male. He is not easily persuaded by female displays of weakness,
dominance, emotion or cooking talent but is impressed by
intelligence, independence and the ability to appreciate and
accept the complex truths of life and the male/female dynamic.
It would make sense then for women to know and understand men,
learn to speak their language and be willing to accept them on
an ‘as is’ basis. It is always wise to make choices based on
facts rather than hopes and dreams, for in real life, there are
no magic formulas for turning the frog into a prince.
Inner Voyages © 2008
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