Feng
Shui for Your Bedroom
Ralph and Lahni DeAmicis
If you follow these Feng Shui strategies, they can
assure that you and your partner are running programs that are
encouraging love, passion and commitment.
Let's start with an easy one. Never, ever paint your bedroom blue. We've
seen that choice alone increase the traffic to the lawyer's office. Blue
is cool. You don't want to feel cool in your bedroom, do you? Not with
your Honey late at night, with the lights off. Blue is about service,
duty, work and 'blue collar' stuff. That's a great color to use in the
kitchen because blue keeps reign on the appetites, which is not
something you want to do in the bedroom!
Avoid using white in your bedroom; it's too neutral and sterile and you
don't want those qualities in your love nest, imagine passion and
sweetness instead. Avoid using yellow; it's very intellectual, which
makes it great for an office, but lousy for the boudoir.
Only paint your bedroom lavender if you never want to have sex again.
This is the color of chastity, which makes it great for your teenager's
room, but not for yours. Please keep pieces of amethyst out of your
bedroom because it has that similar chaste influence.
Now that we've thrown out America's favorite bedroom hues, what colors
are good? All skin tones, tans, light browns and pink help the body feel
nurtured. The colors of plants, especially shades of green add a Venus
quality to your bedroom.
Avoid
red, except as an accent. While red encourages passion, it disturbs the
sleep. Instead, pick out something slinky to wear to bed in that
passionate hue. On the body it doesn't disturb the slumber and it
promotes some delightful warmth. If you lean towards darker shades in
the bedroom you'll sleep better. An amazing number of relationships
break-up over sleep-deprivation in one of the partners. Often times
they're light sensitive and the nighttime bedroom is too bright.
Ban all illuminated dials and clock radios from the bedroom. Remove any
mirrors that are pointing at the bed. Use opaque window coverings to
block out external light. If you do these simple things, you'll go a
long way towards saving a sleep-deprived relationship.
The next key to committed love is also pretty simple, but first it's
helpful to understand something about how your body reacts to a space.
You have a left and right side to your body and on your left side is
your stomach. This is where nutrition comes in. The Chinese express 'I
love you' by saying 'I feed you', and above the stomach is where we feel
our heartbeat. Think of the left side as 'mine'.
On your right side is your liver where your blood is filtered and the
stored nutrition is distributed. The liver is continually balancing the
body's various needs and sharing its resources. That's why we extend our
right hand in greeting. Think of the right side as 'ours'.
When you walk through a doorway your body reads the left side of the
room as 'mine' (individual identity and resources) and the right as
'ours' (partnerships and shared resources). Energy flows around a space
clockwise, from left to right like the body. That brings us back to
"First comes love, then comes marriage, then…" In other words, one thing
leads to another. The sections that relate to romance and relationships
are all on the right side of the room. From the point of view from the
room's doorway, the right third of the back wall is about your passion,
the adjacent third of the right wall is about caring and the middle of
the right-hand wall is about committed relationships.
Our simple advice is that anything you place in the right side of a
room, especially the bedroom, relates to your relationship. Any image
there needs to contain pairs, preferably of the same type or species,
and demonstrating a polarity, for example big and little or male and
female. The middle of the right wall is the perfect place for a picture
of the couple. Furniture placed there should have a sense of balance,
such as a love seat, or a cabinet with two doors. The best material in
the commitment section is real wood because it expresses beauty,
durability and longevity.
Which brings us to the third key. The only photos in the bedroom should
be of the couple. Don't cover your dresser with pictures of the kids,
parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, best friends and the
annual family barbeque. The bedroom is the couple's haven where you're
able to shut out the world. It's hard to relax and be intimately
romantic if you feel like the whole family is watching.
Also, there should be no pictures of Angels in the relationship
sections. If Angels are having sex, they're not telling anybody and if
you're telling the Universe that you want an Angel for a partner, you're
missing the point. The same thing goes for religious images. Filling the
room with the Virgin Mary and half of the Saints leads to separate
bedrooms.
There are places in your home for all of these things, just not in your
bedroom. In any other room, near enough to the door so that you see them
when you first enter, place pictures of the two of you with pictures of
your loved ones. This reinforces your connectedness, belonging and
collective worth. It is a reminder that you are loved and loving and
that wonderful reality helps relationships last a lifetime.
