"Men's bodies are ... harder and tougher. A man tends to relate to
his body as if it were a suit of medieval armor. He wants a
tough, strong, durable body that can handle any kind of punishment.
This relationship to the physical body may be helpful in the
business world, but it is a hindrance in the lovemaking world."
Is there a sexual desire imbalance in
your relationship? Does your partner have a low libido?
Love is an action word and
your partner may show her love in many caring ways, apart from lovemaking.
Show appreciation for all that she does, rather than just keeping score of
the times that you feel sexually rejected. What you focus on will
magnify, so put your focus on the positive and on building a stronger heart
connection.
I bet more intimacy will manifest. Rather than criticizing her low
libido, recognize that she also wants something that she is not receiving.
Possibly affection? Respect? Appreciation? Trust? Variety in
lovemaking? Put your energy into doing your part to change
the situation - initiate communication, show respect and appreciation, be
generous with nonsexual touch, refrain from criticism, judgment, control
tactics, or put-downs. Isn't it worth taking this leap of faith?
Which comes first - sexual desire or arousal?
Desire does not need to be present for arousal to blossom. Initiate
nonsexual touch - snuggling, a back rub, foot massage, head rub, lightly
trace the lines in the palms of her hands - you get the picture. When
a woman can relax and enjoy soft, sweet, nonsexual touch, guess what? -
arousal often happens. All appetites need a trigger. Do you ever
sit down for a meal not feeling hungry, and as you start eating you
recognize that you are hungry after all? The same goes for sexual
desire.
A woman's sexual desire is a natural
consequence of feeling loved and supported. She needs a heart connection
before she desires a sexual one. Of course, there are many factors
that may contribute to a low libido and desire discrepancy in a
relationship, and these suggestions are not intended as a "fix all."
You may want to contact a sex coach or therapist for further guidance.
Sexopedia
Prostrate
- (v) to bring down, level,
(adj) lying down, horizontal, prone
Prostate - (n) an organ in the male body that
surrounds the urethra at the base of the bladder, controls the
release of urine, and secretes a fluid that makes up part of the
semen.
Sex Coach
Says
One of women's greatest complaints about their male sex
partners is -
they focus on their genitals too quickly.
Men, as a
general rule of thumb, pleasure the rest of her body for
at least one-half of the time, before you touch her genitals.
