Can You Take
Directions?
Pam Babbitt, Sex
Coach
Are you a man who can take directions
from a woman?
This sex tip is all
about direction, and despite my widespread
reputation for being directionally
challenged, you can trust me on this one.
Your preparation: Be clean, nourished and hydrated to prevent
interruptions. Clip nails and
hangnails, and use hand lotion.
Picture this:
You and your lover are
lazing side-by-side. You turn to her and
lovingly stroke her genitals. I know -
you’ve done that a million times
before and she
loves it. But this technique might
just be the one that really lights
her fire:
1) Gently coax
your lover to turn onto her stomach and use light feather
strokes up and down her entire backside. Slowly nudge her legs apart
by placing your hands on either side of each
leg and using synchronized circular massage
strokes with greater pressure from the hand
on the inside of her leg.
2) Reposition yourself to kneeling or sitting
between her legs.
3) Sensually tickle her inner
thighs, incorporating some soft, long
stroking down her legs - don't rush.
4) Reach one hand under her
body, and place your warm palm (no fingers,
no lube) on her labia. Place your
other hand on her sacrum, light palm
pressure, no fingers. Hold static for a minute or so
as you breathe deeply and slowly to connect
energetically. Now gradually increase the
pressure of both hands (moving to very
firm), simultaneously - press, release,
press, release, press release, as slowly as
you can. (The experience of feeling a
hand on each side of your body as they move
simultaneously can be very nurturing and
supportive.)
5) Remove your
hand from her sacrum, and let it rest gently
on the center of her butt. With the
hand on her labia, gradually increase the
pressure from light to firm while moving
it very slowly in a circular motion,
maintaining firm palm pressure. This
action massages her labia and entire
clitoral muscle (all 4.5 inches of it). Then
reverse the direction. Whatever your speed,
cut it in half.
6) Read your
lover's body as she continues to rest on her
stomach, and when the time is right, gently
move her labia aside to expose the head of
her clit. Again with the entire palm
of your hand, stroke from the clitoral hood
down to her vagina. If her comfort level
allows, you
may continue the stroke over her anus. Use lube as needed
(Hint - try warm lube on this sensitive
area). Now vary the stroking, pressure and
direction as you engage your fingers to awaken every inch
of her luscious genitals.
7) As arousal
builds, remove both hands from her genitals
and use long strokes to spread that erotic
energy up her back and down her legs.
Ask her to breathe with you, as you breathe
deeply and rapidly. She may be on the
brink of orgasm (though there are no goals
or expectations). Wherever the degree
of her arousal, allow her to 'marinate' in
that erotic energy as you gradually reduce
the speed of your breathing and your touch.
8) Now is a
great time to place your palms (straight
arms) on her butt and thighs as you use your
body weight to gradually increase and
decrease the pressure on her body.
9) Slowly return
to her genitals and continue the pleasuring
and teasing. Continue to
read her body as you repeat these
techniques, allowing her energy to build as
you stroke and tease. Then bring the
energy down by spreading it throughout her
body using long massage strokes and focusing
your touch on other areas of her body.
If her energy is high, you may also ask her
to breathe with you as you do so very slowly
and deeply, which will decrease the energy.
Then build the energy again.
It’s all about direction, guys. And speed. And anticipation.
And presence.
